Drop the Love Struggle 

RECAP DAY 1 - CLEARING YOUR LOVE HISTORY

Today we looked at why the challenges you’re facing with love are a struggle you can drop. This is based on 2 foundational sets of beliefs:

1- What you believe about Allah, are you made for struggle or happiness?

2- What you believe about love, everything you picked up as a child.

HOMEWORK DAY 1

Write out all of your love memories you learned form family, society and media. Also write out understanding of love Allah has for you and what He can or will provide. Childhood. Teenage years. Young Adult. Adult.

• Journal out these memories.
• Notice what these instances taught you about yourself and love.
• We are looking at these stories with the intention to release and reframe.

Pray: Allah I am willing to see things differently. Help me to shift my perspective.

Ask yourself: is the belief I picked up around this memory ultimately true.

See what new positive ideas begin to emerge.

Go through these memories and begin to write a story that feels better around each one.

(Keep in mind, it is safe to forgive those who have hurt us. It has happened. It is in the past. There is no need to hold on to it longer).

AFFIRMATIONS

I am ready and willing to clear my history, blocks and stories around love.

I am safe to be happy in the marriage I want.

I am worthy of love just as I am.

RECAP DAY 2 - BECOMING A MATCH FOR LOVE

In order to get out of the love struggle you have to commit to your decision for love. In Day 2, Zahra shared how duplicity is slowing down your progress. Key notes:

• Love is good for you, let go of any thinking that maybe you’re being protected by not having the loving marriage you want.
• Your work is summed up by the Rumi quote “Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.”

HOMEWORK DAY 2

Write out all the reasons you doubt or fear love won’t happen or isn’t for you.

Pray: Oh Allah guide me to fully internalize that there is no true reason I cannot have the love and marriage I want.

AFFIRMATIONS

I am committed to the loving relationship I want.

I am firm in my faith and belief in love.

 RECAP DAY 3 - TRUSTING ALLAH WILL PROVIDE

Understanding the most famous hadith trust Allah and tie your camel and how to apply that to your marriage approach.

• The opposite of faith is not disbelief it is doubt, you need to work on get past your doubts.
• If you find yourself forcing yourself to do action, or frantic about the action you need to take you are likely trying to compensate for low trust- build up your trust instead.

HOMEWORK DAY 3

Imagine that you amazing partner comes to you and tells you how wonderful you are, showers you with attention and gifts- how do you feel?

• If you feel good, then take 1 min everyday to imagine and feel those good feelings
• If you feel uncomfortable in anyway - journal out what what made you feel that way, those are the things you need to work through.

Pray: Oh Allah thank you for creating a perfect match for me, I am ready to embrace that amazing love is for me.

AFFIRMATIONS

I welcome incredible, joyous and safe love.

It is so easy for me to receive love, attention and gifts and it is so easy for me to give.

RECAP DAY 4 - LIVING FROM CONFIDENT EXPECTATION

Allah wants your to be successful, happy and in love- you are safe to want to have an amazing relationship and hope for it.

• You have to decide what stories you want to buy into and what you want to believe. Believe in all the reasons why you can’t and when you won’t or believe it is all possible.
• Only when you are sick and tired of shrinking and reducing what you want will to be ready to claim what you really want.
• Nothing and no one is limiting you expect you.

HOMEWORK DAY 4

What do you really want?

• Journal out your story in 3rd person past tense
• Figure out who you need to be in order for you to have that dream relationship.

Pray: Oh Allah give me the strength and courage to show up as the greater version of me.

Oh Allah strengthen my ability to believe in my ability to create and maintain the loving relationship I want.

Oh Allah bless me to be an ally to myself.

AFFIRMATIONS

I am so excited for the amazing relationship that is mine.

I am so comfortable showing up as the loving partner I want to be.

RECAP DAY 5 - DECIDING TO DROP THE STRUGGLE

You get to decide. It is as simple and difficult as that.

• Decide what you want and then be willing to do your part to get it. Your part will be to prepare you to be the person who is well equipped to easily have and maintain what you want.
• Admit that you are afraid, sacred or uncertain about what you want but do not claim that Allah is keeping things from you when he is not.
• Your next steps will be shown to you once you decide. Because that is when the work starts and that is what my coaching programs support you with to do the work that gets you to the results you want. 

HOMEWORK DAY 5

Decide. Treat this as a fork in the road moment in your life. You must decided are you going to continue doing what you have been doing, thinking and believing what you have been? Or are you going to do, think and believe differently?

• If you decide you are committing to love and ready to drop the struggle then pay attention to your guidance.
• Look out for and take the next small step that affirms your decision.

Pray: Oh Allah make it very easy and clear for me to know what I must do/think next- I am willing to do my part.

Oh Allah I trust that you are supporting and guiding me and I know the love I want is on it’s way to me.

AFFIRMATIONS

I am the powerful active agent in my life.

I was made for love and it’s safe for me to admit and receive it.

I release anything that is not longer serving me with ease.