LIVE 3-DAY EVENT NOVEMBER 18-20

The Devastating Cost of People Pleasing & How to Stop

People Pleasing is a Spiritual Disease that Ruins Your Deen, Love Life & Career - This is Your Path Out

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3 Days: Stop Pleasing, Start Living

LIVE Event to Break Free from People Pleasing and Reclaim Your Power Through Islam

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You Say Yes When You Want to Say No

You're accommodating. Flexible. Generous. Empathetic. Caring. Helpful.

These are beautiful qualities—until they tip over into self-abandonment.

Now you're:

  • Exhausted from always being "on" for everyone else
  • Resentful that others get what you want while you sacrifice
  • Burnt out from carrying obligations that aren't even yours
  • Bitter watching people take and take while you give and give
  • Jealous of those who seem to do what they want without guilt

You've become a people pleaser. And it's destroying your life.

You've been taught to be nice, accommodating, and selfless—but somewhere along the way, you started confusing people pleasing with piety, and now you're paying the price.

Your worship feels empty, your duas sound hollow, you're trapped in a career that drains your soul, and love feels impossibly out of reach—not because you're lacking, but because you've been sacrificing your dreams, your voice, and your power to keep everyone else comfortable.

This isn't what Allah intended for you.

You were never meant to be a people pleaser. You were meant to be an Allah pleaser.  

Over these 3 transformative sessions, you'll discover the Islamic path out of people pleasing and into divine alignment—where your faith becomes sweet again, your duas are backed with real belief, your career honors your gifts, and love becomes possible because you finally show up as your authentic self.

Allah isn't holding you back, your desire to accommodate others is. 

This is your invitation to stop living for everyone else's approval and start living the expansive, fulfilling life Allah destined for you!

 

THE REAL PROBLEM

It's Not Just Exhausting—It's a Spiritual Disease

People pleasing isn't a personality quirk or a minor character flaw.

It's haram.

When you people please, you:

  • Lie about what you want, how you feel, and what you need
  • Put others before Allah by making decisions based on their approval, not His guidance
  • Abandon your divine purpose because you're too busy fulfilling everyone else's expectations
  • Rob people of doing their own work because you're always there to rescue them

The Prophet ď·ş didn't please everyone. Neither did Aisha (ra).

Yet somewhere along the way, you were taught that being a "good Muslim" means always accommodating others, never saying no, and keeping the peace at all costs.

That's not Islam. That's oppression dressed up as piety.

 

WHY YOU CAN'T STOP (EVEN THOUGH YOU WANT TO)

There Are 3 Main Reasons Why You Put Others Above Yourself

You've tried to change. You've read the books, done the therapy, told yourself you'll set boundaries "next time."

But you keep falling back into the same pattern.

Why?

Because people pleasing isn't just a habit—it's built on three deep beliefs:

REASON #1

You Think It's Righteous

 You were taught that:

  • Being selfless means having no self
  • Being humble means playing small
  • Being a good Muslim means making everyone comfortable
  • Saying no is disrespectful, selfish, and un-Islamic

Your parents cared more about how things looked than how you felt. The community praised you for being "easy-going" and "helpful." You learned that your worth came from accommodating others.

So now you genuinely believe that prioritizing yourself is wrong. That wanting things for yourself is greedy. That setting boundaries is harsh.

The truth? Allah didn't create you to shrink. Being an Allah-pleaser will upset people—and that's okay.

REASON #2

You Don't Have a Strong Vision for Yourself

Because you've spent decades doing what you were told, you've lost touch with who you actually are and what you truly want.

You've done what people said was "right" and "good."
You've followed the path that made your parents proud.
You've built a life that looks successful on paper but feels empty inside.

Now, when faced with a choice, you default to what others want—not because you're being kind, but because you genuinely don't know what YOU want.

Without something compelling for yourself, you have nothing to fight for. So you stay on the sidelines, being the helpful, supportive "good" person instead of the leader of your own life.

The truth? Your desires aren't random—they're divine downloads. They're clues to the life Allah created you to live.

REASON #3 

You're Scared of Conflict and Confrontation       

This is the big one. Your kryptonite.

You can know what you want. You can believe you deserve it. But the moment you think about the pushback—the guilt trips, the disappointment, the "you've changed" comments—you fold.

Because it feels easier to:

  • Bite your tongue than have a hard conversation
  • Say yes than deal with someone being upset
  • Accommodate than stand your ground
  • Shrink than be seen as "difficult"

You've convinced yourself that keeping the peace is more important than living your truth.

The truth? You weren't created to make everyone comfortable. You were created for a specific purpose. And disappointing others is sometimes required to fulfill it.

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THE COST OF STAYING STUCK

What People Pleasing Is Actually Stealing From You

Your Faith:

  • Worship feels like a chore, not a connection
  • You're performing Islam for others, not experiencing it for yourself
  • Your duas feel empty because you only ask for what feels "reasonable"
  • You've confused pleasing people with pleasing Allah

Your Love Life:

  • You're still single because you show up as the "good" version, not the real you
  • Or you're married but over functioning with your spouse instead of partnering with them
  • You can't receive love because receiving feels like being a burden
  • You're lonely even in relationships because no one really knows you

Your Career:

  • You're underpaid because you never advocate for yourself
  • You volunteer for everything, hoping someone will finally notice
  • You're burnt out but can't say no to extra work
  • You're watching others get promoted while you stay stuck

Your Life:

  • Every day feels like a series of obligations for others
  • You're living someone else's story, not yours
  • You know what you want but can't seem to make it happen
  • You're drowning in "shoulds" while your real dreams gather dust

 

DON'T WAIT ANOTHER DAY

The cost of people pleasing compounds every day you stay stuck.

Every yes that should be a no.
Every boundary you don't set.
Every dream you defer for someone else's comfort.

It all adds up.

November 18-20 is your turning point.

Stop giving your power away.

Start living the life Allah created you for.

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THE SOLUTION

The Devastating Cost of People Pleasing & How to Stop

A 3-Day LIVE Intensive Event | November 18-20, 2025

 

This isn't therapy (though keep going to therapy).
This isn't another self-help program with worksheets you'll never do.
This isn't surface-level "just set boundaries" advice.

This is intensive, Islamic, practical work to dismantle the root conditioning that's been running your life for decades.

Over 3 days, we're going to:

  1. Expose how you were trained to be this way
  2. Reconnect you with your authentic self
  3. Prepare you for the real-world pushback when you start living differently

 

TUESDAY, NOVEMBER 18TH at 10am PST

How "Good Muslim" Became Code for People Pleaser

You were trained to believe that people pleasing was 'good' and Islamic. That making others feel good was your job. Today will unlearn all that so you can be follow the model of the Prophets and righteous who stood for truth no matter who it offended. We're exposing the religious and cultural conditioning that sold you people pleasing as piety, and we're giving you permission to stop carrying everyone's comfort on your back. This is where your freedom begins.

You'll leave Day 1 understanding: It's not your fault you were trained this way, but it IS your responsibility to retrain yourself.

WEDNESDAY, NOVEMBER 19TH at 9am PST

Returning to Your Fitrah Fierceness

On Day 2, we're reconnecting you to your fitrah—your natural state before the world told you to be smaller, quieter, and more convenient. You'll learn why you over-function (always making up for others), how it shows up in every area of your life. We'll guide you through a powerful practice to discover what you'd want, do, be, and have if you weren't worried about upsetting, leaving behind, or offending others.

You'll leave Day 2 knowing: Who you are beneath all the conditioning and what you'd want, do, be, and have.

THURSDAY, NOVEMBER 20TH at 11am PST 

Surviving Push Back                 

Your kryptonite is conflict—you've been willing to sacrifice your health, your dreams, and your peace just to avoid it. But here's the truth: you can't build the life Allah created you for while managing everyone else's feelings about it. On Day 3, we're preparing you for the pushback. You'll learn why your transformation threatens others, how to handle the guilt trips without caving, and the exact scripts to use when family, friends, or your community try to shame you back into compliance.

You'll leave Day 3 with: The tools to handle pushback from a centered, powerful place—not from anger or defensiveness, but from deep conviction that you're following Allah's plan for you, not theirs.

Become Unapologetically Divinely Aligned

 

It's time to put Allah over everyone. 

You were raised to be a people pleaser over 3 days we are going to break free and reclaim your power through Islam.

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Why This Works When Everything Else Hasn't

 

❌ NOT:

  • Generic self-help advice
  • Western psychology dressed up with Islamic terminology
  • Surface-level "just say no" strategies
  • Pre-recorded videos you watch alone

âś… THIS IS:

  • LIVE intensive work where we dismantle conditioning together
  • Rooted in Islamic principles - how the Prophet ď·ş had boundaries, how Aisha (ra) spoke truth
  • Practical and actionable - with homework you'll actually do
  • Addressing the ROOT - not the symptoms, but the actual beliefs driving the behavior
  • Community-driven - you're not doing this alone
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WHO THIS IS FOR

This Event Is For You If:

âś“ You say yes when you want to say no
âś“ You feel guilty when you rest or do something for yourself
âś“ You give way more than you receive
âś“ You avoid conflict at all costs
âś“ You're exhausted from always being "on" for others
âś“ You tiptoe around people's feelings to keep the peace
âś“ You're living a life that looks good on paper but feels empty
âś“ You're tired of performing and ready to start living

This Event Is NOT For You If:

âś— You're looking for a quick fix without doing the work
âś— You want permission to be rude or disrespectful (that's not what this is)
âś— You're not willing to examine your conditioning honestly
âś— You're expecting to change overnight without practice

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Salam!

I'm Zahra Aljabri

For nearly a decade, I've coached hundreds of Muslims through major life transformations—marriage, career pivots, spiritual breakthroughs.

And I've realized: People pleasing is the root issue underneath almost everything. 

The burnout. The stalled goals. The empty worship. The unfulfilling relationships.

It's all connected.

This is why I created this event—to address the foundation so everything else can actually work. I help others break free from this pattern using Islamic principles, practical tools, and the kind of honest truth-telling that creates real change.

I'm honored to do this work with you.

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    ✅ Community support with other doing this work in a private space
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COMPARE THE COST

One therapy session: $150-300
One self-help book you'll never implement: $20
Another year of exhaustion, resentment, and living someone else's life: Priceless

This 3-day intensive + lifetime replays: $38 

What's more expensive: investing in your freedom now, or staying stuck for another year?

 FAQ

What happens after you enroll:

  1. You'll receive immediate access to the private event group
  2. You'll get calendar invites for all 3 live sessions with links
  3. You'll receive prep materials before Day 1 to maximize your experience
  4. You'll join us LIVE November 18-20 at 
  5. You'll get replay access delivered within 24 hours of each session

THE CHOICE

Here's What Happens Next

 

Option 1:
Do nothing. Close this page. Tell yourself "maybe later" or "I don't really need this." And in 6 months, you're having the same conversation, feeling the same exhaustion, living the same stuck life.

Option 2:
Invest $38 TODAY. Show up for 3 days. Do the work. And finally—FINALLY—break free from the pattern that's been running your life for decades.

Which option honors the life Allah created you to live?

 

Allah Didn't Create You to Shrink

He didn't create you to be at the mercy of everyone else.
He didn't create you to perform and pretend.
He didn't create you to live someone else's life.

He created you to thrive.
To fulfill a specific purpose.
To live fully alive.

People pleasing is stealing that from you.

It's time to take it back.

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