Miracle Marriages: How to Create Yours

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The Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) and his wife Khadeeja (ra) are #RelationshipGoals.

Independently they were respected members of their community.

Together they changed the world.

They bonded over a commitment to integrity, community and faith. Together they strove to do what was right no matter how hard or how dire the prospects looked on the surface.

Muhammad, the man, would not have been able to take up the mantel of Prophethood if it were not for Khadeeja. He thought he had gone crazy when he received revelation, and had Khadeeja agreed with him, he would have been too scared and isolated to go forth on his own. Instead, she emboldened him by believing in the unbelievable. Allah blessed Muhammad with Khadeeja because she would be the one to solidify his courage to accept the incredible task he was presented with. Although we make Muhammad out to be extraordinary, he was an ordinary man, he simply made an extraordinary choice to answer a call that required him to turn his whole life upside down.

Muhammad was a man who had the ‘American Dream’ — good job, beautiful wife, children, in line to be the leader of his tribe, respect and admiration of his community. However, he knew that there was more to life. He didn’t know what it was, but it drove him to spend countless weeks in isolation on the cave of hira.

Khadeeja, a woman of prestige and beauty, could have lived a comfortable life after her first husband passed away. However, she sought out and married, the man, Muhammad because in him she saw someone who would champion her ambition and who she could respect and learn from. Khadeeja wasn’t looking to simply put her life on cruise control she wanted to continue to grow- that’s why she pursued him. And when after years of a great marriage they were told, that their people would turn against them because of what had been revealed to Muhammad, Khadeeja did not back away- she gave more.

Khadeeja understood the significance of revelation, she was not naive to what it might mean for her and her lifestyle. She could have told Muhammad it was a bad dream and persuaded him to settle back into their ‘good life.’ However, she too felt that they were meant for more. That’s why there was no hesitation when Muhammad came home shaking and terrified, she immediately knew it was truth. She right away took her husband to her cousin to confirm her belief. Khadeeja went on to support him emotionally, spiritually and financially as he faced the most challenging time of his life.

Our marriages today offer us the same opportunity to strive for a life lived deeper than surface level. They can be a place where scary, big dreams can be incubated and grown. The demanding work that Allah calls you to cannot be achieved in a life lived safely doing as we’ve been programed. In our marriages we can find support to challenge the status quo and take the road less traveled. If you do this you set yourself up for miracles, the first of which is living a miracle marriage.

If you are interested in creating a relationship that helps you go further than you could alone. One where you feel confident to speak your truth, encouraged to pursue your ambitions, and blessed knowing you’re in a divine union you can start with my book BEFORE “I DO” 150+ questions for Muslims to ask before marriage.

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